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A collection of quotes by Nora Ephron on women, motherhood, courage, empowerment, reading, humor, books, rebellion, bachelorhood, troubles, love and friendship.

66 Incredible Nora Ephron Quotes Of All Time

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Nora Ephron was a notable American screenwriter, producer, director, journalist, playwright, essayist and a blogger renowned for her romantic comedy. She bagged BAFTA Award for Best Original Screenplay for 'When Harry Met Sally' and was also nominated thrice for the Academy Award for Best Writing. Nora also made contributions as a co-author with the Drama Desk Award–winning theatrical production 'Love, Loss, and What I Wore'. 'Julie & Julia' was her last film. In 2013, she was glorified with a posthumous Tony Award nomination for Best Play for her play ‘Lucky Guy’.She fell-prey to pneumonia derived from acute myeloid leukemia which brought an end to an era of talent. Her spectecular thoughts, sayings and quotes are reflected in her writings, essays. Her legacy continues to motivate all. We bring to you a collection of sayings, quotations and thoughts by Nora Ephron on pregnancy, aging, romance, heartburn and empowerment.

Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.

- Nora Ephron

What are you going to do? Everything, is my guess. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications.

- Nora Ephron

Don't you love New York in the fall? It makes me want to buy school supplies. I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address.

- Nora Ephron

When I buy a new book, I always read the last page first, that way in case I die before I finish, I know how it ends. That, my friend, is a dark side.

- When Harry Met Sally, Nora Ephron

Insane people are always sure that they are fine. It is only the sane people who are willing to admit that they are crazy.

- Nora Ephron

The desire to get married is a basic and primal instinct in women. It's followed by another basic and primal instinct: the desire to be single again.

- Nora Ephron

And then the dreams break into a million tiny pieces. The dream dies. Which leaves you with a choice: you can settle for reality, or you can go off, like a fool, and dream another dream.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

I have made a lot of mistakes falling in love, and regretted most of them, but never the potatoes that went with them.

- Nora Ephron

When your children are teenagers, it's important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

I don't think any day is worth living without thinking about what you're going to eat next at all times.

- Nora Ephron

I look out the window and I see the lights and the skyline and the people on the street rushing around looking for action, love, and the world's greatest chocolate chip cookie, and my heart does a little dance.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

So much of what I see reminds me of something I read in a book, when shouldn't it be the other way around?

- Nora Ephron

Oh, how I regret not having worn a bikini for the entire year I was twenty-six. If anyone young is reading this, go, right this minute, put on a bikini, and don't take it off until you're thirty-four.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

My mother wanted us to understand that the tragedies of your life one day have to potential to be the comic stories the next.

- Nora Ephron

[W]hen you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

- When Harry Met Sally, Nora Ephron

Summer bachelors like summer breezes, are never as cool as they pretend to be.

- Nora Ephron

In my sex fantasy, nobody ever loves me for my mind.

- Nora Ephron

Reading makes me feel I've accomplished something, learned something, become a better person. ... Reading is bliss.

- Nora Ephron

I married him against all evidence. I married him believing that marriage doesn't work, that love dies, that passion fades, and in so doing I became the kind of romantic only a cynic is truly capable of being.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

…the amount of maintenance involving hair is genuinely overwhelming. Sometimes I think that not having to worry about your hair anymore is the secret upside of death.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

I have no desire to be dominated. Honestly I don't. And yet I find myself becoming angry when I'm not.

- Crazy Salad: Some Things About Women, Nora Ephron

I always read the last page of a book first so that if I die before I finish I'll know how it turned out.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

It's much easier to get over someone if you can delude yourself into thinking you never really cared that much.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

You always think that a bolt of lightning is going to strike and your parents will magically change into the people you wish they were, or back into the people they used to be.

- I Remember Nothing: and Other Reflections, Nora Ephron

I look as young as a person can look given how old I am.

- I Remember Nothing: and Other Reflections, Nora Ephron

The hardest thing about writing is writing.

- Nora Ephron

Above all, be the heroine of your own life, not the victim.

- Nora Ephron

As Harry puts it, men and women can never be friends because 'the sex part always gets in the way.

- When Harry Met Sally, Nora Ephron

If pregnancy were a book they would cut the last two chapters.

- Nora Ephron

When you slip on a banana peel, people laugh at you. But when you tell people you slipped on a banana peel, it's your laugh.

- Nora Ephron

Never marry a man you wouldn’t want to be divorced from.

- I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

I'll have what she's having

- Nora Ephron

When you read a book as a child, it becomes a part of your identity in a way that no other reading in your whole life does.

- Nora Ephron

SALLYHarry, I can’t do this anymore. I am not your consolation prize. Goodbye.

- When Harry Met Sally, Nora Ephron

The image of the journalist as wallflower at the orgy has been replaced by the journalist as the life of the party.

- Wallflower at the Orgy, Nora Ephron

It was personal to me." ~Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan) in You've Got Mail

- Nora Ephron

I can make a case that I regret nothing. After all, most of my mistakes turned out to be things I survived, or turned into funny stories, or, on occasion, even made money from.

- I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

He was, in his way, as close to a Zen master as I've ever had, and all of us who fell under his influence began with his style and eventually ended up with our own.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

Love is homesickness.

- I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

You'd be amazed how little choice you have about loony bins.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

What happens to me when I'm provoked is that I get tongue-tied and my mind goes blank. Then I spend all night tossing and turning trying to figure out what I should have said

- Nora Ephron

You can never have too much butter.

- Nora Ephron

Anything you think is wrong with your body at the age of thirty-five you will be nostalgic for at the age of forty-five.

- I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

Reading is grist. Reading is bliss.

- Nora Ephron

Well, at least this time I get to be a person in the story. The last time you told one of your Russian parables I was a bag of chickens.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

Above all, be the heroine of your life.

- Nora Ephron

I must try this again, I thought; I must try again someday to sit still and not say a word. Maybe when I'm dead.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

He loved Thelma, Jonathan said, he had never loved anyone but Thelma, he had loved Thelma for nineteen years and would always love her even though Thelma didn't give a rat's ass about him and never had.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

Checked out the mirror to see if I looked older, or sadder, or wiser. I didn’t; I just looked tired.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

You fall in love with someone, and part of what you love about him are the differences between you; and then you get married and the differences start to drive you crazy.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

I try to write parts for women that are as complicated and interesting as women actually are." --Nora Ephron

- Nora Ephron

Men … I hate them. I’ve always hated them. You wonder why I always hang around with women and never with men, it’s because men do things like this.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

Sometimes I think that not having to worry a bout your hair anymore is the secret upside of death.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

Death doesn't really feel eventual or inevitable. It still feels... avoidable somehow. But it's not. We know in one part of our brains that we are all going to die, but on some level we don't quite believe it.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

People always say that once it goes away you forget the pain. It's a cliche of childbirth. You forget the pain. I don;t happen to agree. I remember the pain. What you really forget is love.

- Nora Ephron

We know in one part of our brains that we are all going to die, but on some level we don’t quite believe it.

- I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

I think I was so entranced with being a couple that I didn’t even notice that the person I thought I was a couple with thought he was a couple with someone else.

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

My parents had drinks and there were crudits for us- although they were not called crudits at the time, they were called carrots and celery.

- Nora Ephron

But the main problem with our marriages was not that our husbands wouldn’t share the housework but that we were unbelievably irritable young women and our husbands irritated us unbelievably. - The D Word

- I Remember Nothing: and Other Reflections, Nora Ephron

Of course, everyone has something wrong with him, that’s for sure, but this guy probably had something really wrong. Perhaps

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

Black makes your life so much simpler. Everything matches black, especially black.

- Nora Ephron

Sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life - well, valuable, but small - and sometimes I wonder, do I do it because I like it, or because I haven't been brave?

- Nora Ephron

Writers are cannibals. They really are. They are predators, and if you are friends with them, and if you say anything funny at dinner, or if anything good happens to you, you are in big trouble.

- Nora Ephron

I’ve always believed that the concept of the Jewish princess was invented by a Jewish prince who couldn’t get his wife to fetch him the butter. I was not raised as

- Heartburn, Nora Ephron

The truth is, most of the genuinely tragic episodes of lost food are things that are somewhat outside the reach of the home cook, even a home cook like me who has been known to overreach from time to time.

- I Feel Bad about My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Nora Ephron

Everything is copy.

- Nora Ephron