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A collection of quotes by Melody Beattie on gratitude, death, life, people, care, behaviour, and survival.

76 Notable Quotes By Melody Beattie That Are Sure To Cause A Stir

Famous As: Writer
Born On: May 26, 1948
Born In: Saint Paul

Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on co-dependent relationships. She started drinking when she was twelve and by the time she turned thirteen she was an alcoholic. At eighteen she became a junkie. She has authored eighteen books and many of them have been published in other languages as well. Some of her renowned works include ‘The Language of Letting Go,’ ‘Codependent No More,’ and ‘Beyond Codependency.’ Following is a collection of interesting and popular quotes by Melody Beattie which have been excerpted from her writings, books, and interviews. Let us browse through the collection of quotes by Melody Beattie on God, religion, experiences, emotions, rich, energy, balance, anger, pain, risks, mistakes, healing, and stress.

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...the plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us.

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Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy.

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You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.

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We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn't think you could live without." p 167 love always found itself again.

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The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.

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Other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours

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Beliefs create reality

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...the pain that comes from loving someone who's in trouble can be profound.

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I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.

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Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. —ANONYMOUS

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Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.

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The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?

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Codependents: don’t trust themselves. don’t trust their feelings. don’t trust their decisions. don’t trust other people. try to trust untrustworthy people.

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Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn’t wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you.

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Codependents appear to be depended upon, but they are dependent.

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Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.

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For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.1 —II TIMOTHY 1:7

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As I’ve said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we’ve abandoned ourselves.

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We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths

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Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s self-esteem.

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Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.

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We work it out, or live it out.

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Today, I will know that I don’t have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.

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The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony.

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We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.

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Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.

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Recovery is not about being right; it’s about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are.

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The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.

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The vocation of putting people straight, of tearing off their masks, of forcing them to face the repressed truth, is a highly dangerous and destructive calling,

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Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us.

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Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long.

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Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It’s about crossing lines.

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Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.

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The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.

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We’ve realized that women have souls, and men have feelings.

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We Are Lovable Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.

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Can you feel the rush? Listen quietly. It’s there. It’s the sound of a life and spirit being set free. God, help me set myself free from ridiculous and unnecessary expectations.

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Don’t give up hope. It took many of us twenty years or more to acquire these protective behaviors we umbrella with the word codependency. It may take as much time as that to let go of them.

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Work at learning to have fun. Apply yourself with dedication to learning enjoyment. Work as hard at learning to have fun as you did at feeling miserable.

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God, help me let go of my need to deprive myself of being alive.

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Today, I will apply the concept of detachment, to the best of my ability, in my relationships. If I can’t let go completely, I’ll try to “hang on loose.

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Prayer and meditation help us affirm that our Higher Power cares for

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I believe detachment can become a habitual response, in the same manner that obsessing, worrying, and controlling became habitual responses—by

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Some codependents become financially dependent

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We stop worrying about them, and they pick up the slack and finally start worrying about themselves. What a grand plan! We each mind our own business. Earlier, I described a person caught in

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If you make a decision, you’ll become a hero within the corporate culture. If 30 percent of your decisions are right, you’re going to be a big hitter.”2

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We’re so careful to see that no one gets hurt. No one, that is, but ourselves.

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Codependent No More Workbook Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact Finding Your Way Home Gratitude

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Not acknowledging our feelings is what keeps us stuck and gives us stomachaches, headaches, and heartburn.

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Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

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If you have done nothing to feel embarrassed about, don’t feel embarrassed. I know this is a tough concept, but it can be mastered.

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Today, I will understand that I hold the key to my freedom. I will stop participating in my oppression and victimization. I will take responsibility for myself, and let others do as they may.

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Today, I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself.

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Today, I will exchange a controlled life for one that is manageable.

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Today, I will remember that there is no situation that can’t be benefited by taking care of myself.

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When I awoke, my first thoughts and feelings were painful.

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I still have bad days. But that’s okay. I used to have bad years. —Anonymous

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Today, God, help me practice the concept of acceptance in my life. Help me accept myself, others, and my circumstances. Take me one step further, and help me feel grateful.

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Maybe we don’t need to go deeper into our codependency. We can, instead, march forward into our destinies.

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Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am?

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Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to “fall apart.

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Stay conscious of who you travel with on this journey. See who you’re attracted to and notice who is attracted to you. See how much better you feel when you surround yourself with the energy of love.

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Accepting reality is touted and encouraged by most sane people.

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I am not a teacher, but an awakener. —ROBERT FROST

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It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere. —AGNES REPPLIER, The Treasure Chest

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Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept.

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I’ve learned I can take care of myself, and what I can’t do, God will do for me. —Al-Anon member

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Many of us react as though everything is a crisis because we have lived with so many crises for so long that crisis reaction has become a habit.

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Today, I will relax, breathe, and go with the flow.

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A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.

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If we want to change what happens, we change what we believe and expect.

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Believing that things happen too slowly or too quickly is an illusion. Timing is perfect.

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Everything comes at its appointed moment. —Joseph R. Sizoo

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When you let go of fear and the need to control, you’ll experience how mysterious, sacred, and interesting Life can be.

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Today, I will wait if the way is not clear. I will trust that out of the chaos will come clarity.

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Today, I will watch myself and listen to myself as I go through my day. I will not judge myself for what I’m feeling; I will accept myself.

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