Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy.
...the plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us.
You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.
We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn't think you could live without." p 167 love always found itself again.
The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.
Other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours
Beliefs create reality
...the pain that comes from loving someone who's in trouble can be profound.
I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.
The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?
Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. —ANONYMOUS
Codependents: don’t trust themselves. don’t trust their feelings. don’t trust their decisions. don’t trust other people. try to trust untrustworthy people.
Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.
Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn’t wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you.
Codependents appear to be depended upon, but they are dependent.
Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.1 —II TIMOTHY 1:7
As I’ve said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we’ve abandoned ourselves.
We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths
Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s self-esteem.
Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.
We work it out, or live it out.
Today, I will know that I don’t have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.
The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony.
We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.
Recovery is not about being right; it’s about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are.
The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.
The vocation of putting people straight, of tearing off their masks, of forcing them to face the repressed truth, is a highly dangerous and destructive calling,
Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us.
